Drugs and alcohol distorted our perceptions. Our fears, whether large or small, were distorted. And we still distort those fears, on occasion, because we move away from the spiritual reality of our lives. Remember, we are confronted with no situation too big to handle, no experience for which we are unprepared, if we but turn to that greater power that the program offers us. We cannot fail in whatever we try today. The outcome of any task attempted is just as it should be. And however we succeed today, we will be shown the steps, at the right time, to make use of that success.
God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change. Many times – yesterday, as a situation arose where I lost my temper during a situation, last week, today, and even tomorrow – we’ll come face-to-face with a seemingly intolerable situation. The compulsion to change the situation, to demand that another person change the situation is great. What a hard lesson it is, to learn we can change only ourselves! The hidden gift in this lesson is that as our activities change, often the intolerable situations do, too. Acceptance, after a time, smooths all the ripples that discourage us. And it softens us. It nurtures wisdom. It attracts joy and love from others. Ironically, we often try to force changes that we think will “loosen” love and lessen struggle. Acceptance can do what our willpower could never accomplish. As we grow in wisdom, as we grow in understanding, as we realize the promises of this program, we’ll stand ready to weather all our personal storms.
There is a vast difference between being alone and being lonely. To be alone but in touch with ourselves can be very rewarding. But to many of us, the isolation and alienation we feel in our loneliness is devastating. To feel that we have no one, not even ourselves to depend on can lead to despair. Belonging to a group that shares our pain and has lived through our experiences will help end the isolation from ourselves. AA validates our feelings, shares our grief, helps us learn to love and trust our Higher Power, and shares our hope for the future. Instead of feeling different, as we have for so long, in our group we have a place to feel a part of others, and to accept ourselves. Continuing to be a part of this fellowship, we learn how to accept who we are, and we learn that being alone with our true self can be a creative and joyful process in recovery. I am blessed today to understand this valuable reality-I AM NEVER ALONE 💜☯☮ Love and Hugs~
Often, we don’t like to admit it when we are wrong, even though simple logic tells us no one can be right all the time. And much of what we often argue about as right or wrong has nothing to do with right and wrong. Is it right or wrong to wear a red dress rather than a blue one? Or to take the bus rather than the train to work? Life is too short to always try to be right, or to put everything into the category of right or wrong. We save ourselves a lot of grief and pain when we are able to admit we made a mistake, and avoid using the labels “right” and “wrong” when they just don’t apply to the situation. We find great freedom in letting most things just be what they are, without a judgment from us. And we learn to love ourselves and those around us the same way. Lesson learned 💜☮
Facing the day straight on is occasionally difficult to do. There are those days we feel like crawling under the covers and staying there, certain that we can’t handle whatever might be asked of us. Maybe today is one of those days. Perhaps we feel 12 years old, instead of 59. To consciously behave like a responsible 59-year-old is out of the question. Acting “as if” is the next best thing, the program tells us, and it is. Acting “as if” also comes in handy when only a minor kink interferes with the day’s progression. Most problems don’t fit an easy solution or a familiar one. However, most problems are dispensed with by seeing them as opportunities for creative response, calmly seeking guidance and then moving ahead slowly, being aware of the effects of our actions. I am blessed to be sober today because of the action I am putting forward. Hugs
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of self-pity, thinking we have no purpose, fearing we’ll take life nowhere, dreading others’ expectations of us. But we can turn our thinking around at any moment. The choice is ours. We can simply decide to discover our talents, and nurture them and enrich the lives of others. The benefits will be many. So will the joys. We have a very important part to play, today, in the lives we touch. We can expect adventure, and we’ll find it. We can look for our purpose; it’s at hand. We can remember – we aren’t alone. We are in partnership every moment. Our talents are God-given, like when I play a song for my nephew at his wedding coming up and guidance for their full use is part of the gift. I will have a dream today. In my dream is my direction.