Change is certainly challenging for me, and it seems like the older I get, the more challenging it is. But on the other hand, change is simply the name of the game in recovery – it just is. I have grown up in the rooms of A.A., and I’m still growing. I have one of those small wallet cards which is entitled “Emotional Maturity” and I would like to share it with you here, today. (I will edit it for gender)
Some of the characteristics of the person who has achieved true adulthood are suggested here:
1. They accept criticism gratefully, being honestly glad for an opportunity to improve.
2. They do not indulge in self-pity. They have begun to feel the laws of compensation operating in all life.
3. They do not expect special consideration.
4. They control their temper.
5. They meet emergencies with poise.
6. Their feelings are not easily hurt.
7. They accept responsibility of their own acts without evasion.
8. They have outgrown the “all or nothing” stage. They recognize that no person or situation is wholly good or wholly bad, and they have begun to appreciate the Golden Mean.
9. They are not impatient at reasonable delays. They have learned that they are not the arbiter of the universe and that they must often adjust themselves to other people and their convenience.
10. They are a good loser. They can endure defeat and disappointment without whining or complaining.
11. They do not worry unduly about things they cannot help.
12. They are not given to boasting or “showing off” in socially unacceptable ways.
13. They are honestly glad when others enjoy success or good fortune. They have outgrown envy and jealousy.
14. They are open-minded enough to listen thoughtfully to the opinion of others.
15. They are not chronic fault-finders.
16. They plan in advance rather than trusting to the inspiration of the moment.
Last of all we think in terms of spiritual maturity.
1. They have faith in a Power greater than themselves.
2. They feel themselves as an organic part of mankind as a whole, contributing their part to each group of which they are a member.
3. They obey the spiritual essence of the Golden Rule: They shall love thy neighbor as thyself.
It has been a pleasure taking over this blog….so if they’res anyone who would love to step up…let me know, so it doesn’t get IMHO, cultish, repetitive or BORING ♥