The resolve to fulfill commitments we make to ourselves and others may be lacking until we learn to rely on the wisdom and strength offered by a power greater than myself–strength that will make us confident in any situation; wisdom that will insure our right actions. What is difficult alone is always eased in partnership.

We promise ourselves changed behavior, new habits, perhaps, or a positive attitude. But then we proceed to focus on our liabilities, giving them even more power, a greater hold over us. We can practice our assets, and they’ll foster the promises we want to keep.

No longer need we shame ourselves about unfulfilled promises. Whatever our desires, whatever our commitments, if for the good of others and ourselves, they will come to fruition. We can ask for direction. We can ask for resolve, and each worthy hope and unrealized promise will become reality.



With Help

I stuck around the Program long enough for me to come to an understanding of what the Program was about.  It was not a secret society, it was not a religious offshoot, and it was not some clandestine group who chanted and spoke in tongues.  It was simply a group of people who possessed the same disease, and was searching for the same solution.  I began to learn that when I looked for the similarities I had with others, I readily found them.  I too had lost my power to control my drinking, I too has lost my power to stop when I wanted to stop – I was powerless, and my life was a mess as the result of this pattern of drinking.

It had nothing to do with RELIGION.  It was about living by the Spiritual Principles of A.A.  It was about sharing and caring with and for others who  were also obsessed with the disease of alcoholism.  Whatever works for you, however you want to define a Higher Power . . . we each come to our own conclusion of how that will “look” for us.

The bottom line being that I had to come to the acceptance of a power that was greater than me, greater than my drinking obsession, greater than the madness and insanity of continuing to drink in spite of the chaos and troubles which always seemed to follow.  I could not do this alone – with the help of others in the Program, the Program itself, and my Higher Power;  together we have regained some semblance of sanity in my life.


Growth and Change

Change is certainly challenging for me, and it seems like the older I get, the more challenging it is.  But on the other hand, change is simply the name of the game in recovery – it just is.  I have grown up in the rooms of A.A., and I’m still growing.  I have one of those small wallet cards which is entitled “Emotional Maturity” and I would like to share it with you here, today.  (I will edit it for gender)

Some of the characteristics of the person who has achieved true adulthood are suggested here:

1.  They accept criticism gratefully, being honestly glad for an opportunity to improve.

2.  They do not indulge in self-pity.  They have begun to feel the laws of compensation operating in all life.

3.  They do not expect special consideration.

4.  They control their temper.

5.  They meet emergencies with poise.

6.  Their feelings are not easily hurt.

7.  They accept responsibility of their own acts without evasion.

8.  They have outgrown the “all or nothing” stage.  They recognize that no person or situation is wholly good or wholly bad, and they have begun to appreciate the Golden Mean.

9.  They are not impatient at reasonable delays.  They have learned that they are not the arbiter of the universe and that they must often adjust themselves to other people and their convenience.

10. They are a good loser.  They can endure defeat and disappointment without whining or complaining.

11. They do not worry unduly about things they cannot help.

12. They are not given to boasting or “showing off” in socially unacceptable ways.

13. They are honestly glad when others enjoy success or good fortune.  They have outgrown envy and jealousy.

14. They are open-minded enough to listen thoughtfully to the opinion of others.

15. They are not chronic fault-finders.

16. They plan in advance rather than trusting to the inspiration of the moment.

Last of all we think in terms of spiritual maturity.

1.  They have faith in a Power greater than themselves.

2.  They feel themselves as an organic part of mankind as a whole, contributing their part to each group of which they are a member.

3.  They obey the spiritual essence of the Golden Rule:  They shall love thy neighbor as thyself.

It has been a pleasure taking over this blog….so if they’res anyone who would love to step up…let me know, so it doesn’t get IMHO, cultish, repetitive or BORING ♥


God does for Me!

I have learned to temper my “flare” and know who to give credit to.  God gives me what I need, God gives me the strength I need to deal with issues and problems, and God gives me the will and the power to walk through life challenges.  Learning to live sober is another example of God’s work in my life.  God is doing for me what I could not do for myself.  I live a sober life today, I participate in my own recovery, I support and step up for service to the Fellowship, and when the opportunity presents itself I work towards being of service to a fellow traveler on this road to a happy destiny.  The greatest feat I can accomplish today is to simply offer my hand and say “Hi, welcome to the Fellowship”


“Somethings”….in my recovery

I always believed that I had some “good” in me, but I was in such a state of denial that I buried that “good” under a pile of bad behavior, especially when I drank.  Coming to the Program and reconnecting with my Higher Power has enabled me to uncover those good traits that I had buried ever so deep.  It turned out to be so simple – I quit doing those things that made me feel bad, and I started doing those things that made me feel good.

I found that I could not only have friends, but I could be a friend to others.  The isolation and loneliness of my drinking was over.  I discovered a whole room full of people who welcomed me, and through their stories and behavior I came to know that hope was still alive within me.  God and A.A. brought me to a place of acceptance of who I was – and that I was still a child of God.  It has turned out to be the best decision in my life.  Today, I am no longer alone, I have a Spiritual partner, a protector, a guide, a teacher, a Higher Power.  He has graced me with recovery, He has blessed me with self-knowledge, and He has granted me the right and privilege of sobriety – I just need to suit up, show up, and do the footwork.


Got a Minute?

It’s a good thing to practice asking for help – when help is needed.  It’s healthier asking for help, when it is needed, than it is not asking, and just “suffering” through whatever issue you’re facing.  We help each other, all the time – it’s just part of being in recovery. In recovery we help each other, we learn from each other, and we are blessed to have the special friendships we have – they enable us to step up and say ” Got a minute?”  We get what we give in life – being of service to another is just God’s way of teaching us to ask for the help we need, when we need it.


The Reality of Life

My life, as the result of my recovery, continues to unfold and amaze me.  It is certainly not the big, dark hole I thought I would be facing in these, my latter years.  I have purpose and direction today – through the Program of A.A.  Thank God, and I mean that literally, that I made at least one good decision in my life – the decision to get sober…AND keep my daughter.  God knows what He is doing, there is a reason for all actions on God’s part.  My part in my life is to keep showing up, keep the faith, and keep the plug in the jug.

My reality today, this very busy and hectic day before Christmas, is to put one foot in front of the other.  To do what I can, where I can and with whom I can.  I can give of myself today; my time, my attention, my love – I can share with all who cross my path today.  I can share because God has graced my life with the spiritual principles of patience, love, and tolerance. Merry Christmas to all who read and are a part of this blog….Doc, Paul, Jaybird, Maggs, Nae, Double D, Pete, Mark, The Toms, Julie, SF, SHRINI…ZUZU….Bill M, kt, TREE, ickrat, IamWalrus, Soto, AinV, Nina, Poppapete, Albert, thor e, Jack, A, speakingforgod, S, and ALL of you whom I cannot place in my small memory back….have a WONDERFUL HOLIDAY…SOBER!! ♥♥♥

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