Sober and …..

The diversity of the membership of AA is one of those things that I love about the Program.  This is very evident in the area where I live. What unites us is both our disease of alcoholism and our search for the solution to recovery.  As I was told early in recovery, to look for the similarities, not the differences.  This also relates back to the “anonymity” of the Program.  I am nothing more nor less that “Bonnie, alcoholic,” when I introduce myself at meeting level.  My ethnic background does not matter, my marital status does not matter, what job I work does not matter, nor does my lack of working, it does not matter what kind of car I drive or if I use public transportation, none of these things define me when I am in a meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous.

I have been in meetings where 99% of the membership is white, I make an attempt to welcome those who are in the minority, however that is defined.  I spent enough time trying to fit in with other groups, where I usually ended up feeling “different.”  I have been asked to leave a few choice places – and have been asked not to return to others.  This relates to my behavior, most often.  My behavior changes when alcohol is in the mix – I believe this is true for many of us.  The changes I have made in the Program are positive ones, and no one has ever asked me to leave a meeting . . . although suggestions about changes continue to be made – and accepted, as I know that continued growth will occur in my life.  AA is “inclusive” not “exclusive” which means that we work towards accepting all who come in search of sobriety, after all Tradition Three states “The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking.”  Thanks, Bill W

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6 thoughts on “Sober and …..

  1. I was given one of the most remarkable instructions in my entire life a little over a quarter century ago as I was sitting with a small group of people seeking a spiritual pathway. I declared that I was having a lot of trouble with meditation which at the time was a totally new and quite foreign concept.
    A gentle lady from South Carolina who had chosen to be with us at the conclave in North Georgia replied, “Why don’t you just think about God?”
    This was in the evening and that very night as I was lying on my bed and preparing for sleep I entered into this type of meditation by saying, ‘God…… God…… God…… God….. and the most remarkable occurrence came; – the amazing peace of God enveloped me.

    For quite some time now I have been fascinated by the phenomenon which I called “first thoughts”. It is the first thoughts which are present on wakening and of course they are not always the same but the progression is remarkable for they are evolving towards being pure and beautiful – and to me they are amazing.
    This morning I awoke with the thought of God – the thought of God.
    I have come to believe that this spiritual space of coming alive to this new day is “Holy Ground”.

    Perhaps I should take off my shoes.

    Perhaps my shoes are already removed!

    In the hour or so that has transpired I have experienced a powerful desire to be of help, to be a blessing towards others.

    In a romantic ballad of several years ago it is declared; “You Are Always on My Mind”. I was given one of the most remarkable instructions in my entire life a little over a quarter century ago as I was sitting with a small group of people seeking a spiritual pathway. I declared that I was having a lot of trouble with meditation which at the time was a totally new and quite foreign concept.
    A gentle lady from South Carolina who had chosen to be with us at the conclave in North Georgia replied, “Why don’t you just think about God?”
    This was in the evening and that very night as I was lying on my bed and preparing for sleep I entered into this type of meditation by saying, ‘God…… God…… God…… God….. and the most remarkable occurrence came; – the amazing peace of God enveloped me.

    For quite some time now I have been fascinated by the phenomenon which I called “first thoughts”. It is the first thoughts which are present on wakening and of course they are not always the same but the progression is remarkable for they are evolving towards being pure and beautiful – and to me they are amazing.
    This morning I awoke with the thought of God – the thought of God.
    I have come to believe that this spiritual space of coming alive to this new day is “Holy Ground”.

    Perhaps I should take off my shoes.

    Perhaps my shoes are already removed!

    In the hour or so that has transpired I have experienced a powerful desire to be of help, to be a blessing towards others.

    In a romantic ballad of several years ago it is declared; “You Are Always on My Mind”. http://youtu.be/R7f189Z0v0Y

    We are advised in our 11th step to seek through prayer and meditation To Improve Our Conscious Contact with God As We Understand Him.

    Could anything be better?

  2. My ego doesn’t want me to admit that i don’t wake up thinking about God and they’re some days I even caught myself not talking to him for over a half hour after getting up. Then they’re some days I wanna just chew his ass for morning misery and pain. but I guess at least I’m talking to him. Then after some reflection I can find things to be grateful for and i feel a little more at peace. The more I work at finding things to be grateful for, I find more things to be grateful for and this includes relationships whether good or bad, current and past. Have a good day folks.

  3. By the time I got to Alcoholics Anonymous people were trying to seperate themselves from me, saying things like; Leave, and don’t come back, If you show up drunk again, you’ll have to find other work, Don’t come around when you’re drinking, take your things and go, get in the back of the car, mr. Erickson, etc, etc.
    You guys asked me to stay and be a part of, and that terrified me, but it had been a while since anyone wanted me as a participant in anything, so I’ve stayed since then, with Gods’ grace.
    I need to always remember that when a new man shows up.

  4. I attend a meeting to listen to the experience, strength, and hope of others. I have to do this to keep me sober. I also read the BB and meet with my sponsor, but I relate more to individuals in meetings tell me and others how they stay sober Simple concept, but it works for me. Every member of AA has to help others, and there is no simpler way than attend and participate at AA meetings.

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