Help is Available/Needed

I’m one of those people who find it hard to ask for help, but as the years go by my reluctance gives way more readily than it used to. I am capable of talking with another alcoholic about issues with my own family, or my own recovery, and I do reach out to my sponsor when I need to, but I have to admit there have been times of distress when I was so confused that asking for help was the last thing on my “to do” list.  I find that I am still a very head-strong woman, and yet when I look back I can see where my behavior has changed and I am more inclined to ask for help that I was before recovery – there has been some progress.<

I try to readily help others, and I conversely work towards being honest about my own needs, be they material, physical or even spiritual.  I feel truly blessed to be in a position of both helping others, and being strong enough to ask for the help I need, when that is appropriate.  The Program helps me to change and accept the fact of my own limitations, physically.  It also affords me the opportunity to be of service to others in whatever way that demonstrates itself.  I pray that I remain as willing to give help as I am willing to receive help.



5 thoughts on “Help is Available/Needed

  1. I am so thankful that something like a resolve to never mind being preached at in whatever form it might come and believe me I have been bombarded with many things which have served to increase my faith and deepen my insight. A little and sometimes a huge amount of God’s glory is shown to me.
    Do I think I have been set aside as something special?
    The only thing special about me is my family relationship as one of God’s children and by golly I continue to be preached to; there are so many of us aren’t they?
    Why does it seem to be a surprise; why am I sometimes stunned?
    My experiences is only for me as it is intended to be.

    And has it been a joy?

    As Joseph settled in the caravan of sweet smelling spices on his journey to Egypt, do you suppose he enjoyed the ride?

    Have I enjoyed; do I enjoy this 12-step ride?
    🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

  2. I often wish you were here to help these women Bonster and I hope those you do help, appreciate your help. I’m certainly grateful for the help you’ve given me and the rest of us.
    I was delighted to hear i recieved an A in one class last night and think I can pull off a B in Soc Psych. Pscyh was the first college class i actually had to do my own papers. I learned a lot about myself and why others interact with each other they way they do. One thing sticks out in my mind though and that’s a quote, ” we are half of what we are by imitation”. It just reinforces, the people places and playground story in which we have to change. I work along side a pastor n have at least 3 more i can call anytime and see often. I chose to have good mentors today and I know their ears tweak forward with my language sometimes but it is what it is and it’ll change when it changes. Psych has also opened my eyes a little more to prejudices amd bias’s, implicit and explicit but even more so how others perceive situations as extrinsic or intrinsic and why they do. I couldn’t have learned any of this without being sober. Today i’ve got a chance if i stay sober. I will do my best with the help of my good buddy upstairs! God bless!

  3. It’s a big old deal, this helping somebody else.
    Or, even more, actually asking somebody else for help. I was raised on a straight diet of self-sufficiency. To actually ask you for help is to admit my weakness, vulnerability and inadequacy to my psychically sick way of thinking. But you guys showed me, again, that my thinking was 180 degrees the opposite of the truth. To be strong enough to recognise I am too weak to do everything, to be resilient enough to know I can handle whatever you serve up and not die from hearing it. and to be adequate enough to fill my natural place in His order- those are the hallmarks of recovery.
    Once I begin to get a glimmer of that awareness, then I begin to be useful to myself and to others. As I come out of self and into life, I come out of darkness and into the light.
    Beats being a slave to booze; at least for me.

  4. Nothing happened for me in Alcoholics Anonymous until I asked for help. When I asked a man to sponsor me, when I asked God to remove the obsession to drink, things started to happen. I must continue to ask, if I want results. We!
    Sometimes the greatest outcomes start from something as simple as asking someones’ name.

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