Today I can honestly say that I have solid friendships, and I enjoy them immensely. I still work on being a friend, and try to remember to treat others in a kindly fashion, and with respect. It takes a long time to develop a solid friendship – one whereby you share everything with each other, support each other emotionally, and back each other up consistently. It takes time to trust each other. In the Program we have the opportunity to meet many people, and sometimes we connect with others solidly, and other times we remain “acquaintances” which is also fine.
I think we (meaning those of us in the Program) are particularly blessed to have the opportunity to meet and share our lives with each other. We develop many close relationships – one special one is the Sponsor/Sponsee relationship that forms for many of us. Talk about friendship – it is all that plus a very special extra which is hard to describe. We exchange much information about ourselves, and learn much about each other. Ideally, we respect each other, learn from each other, hold discussions privately, and speak the same language – the language of the heart. Friendship – I’m still learning how to be a friend, and I have found that the best way to gain a friend is to be one.