Loving Ourselves

It has taken many years for me to come to a state of acceptance of just who I am, what I am and where I am. I am Bonnie, alcoholic, sober by the grace of God. I am not a superhero, I am not rich, famous, nor am I some spiritual or mental giant. I’m just another alcoholic, another woman in recovery. I am content with who and what I am today. I have learned to love and accept myself, just as I am today, flaws and all.

Acceptance of myself just as I am has enabled me to experience happiness. Feelings of being restless, irritable and discontent have abated. I will never be all that I “think” I should be, but I no longer live in a world of total dissatisfaction, like I did when I was drinking and pretty much nuts, most of the time. Much of what I see in others has to do with their willingness to work towards goals and desires – education takes dedication and perseverance. I may never be a brainiac, but it is my hope and prayer that I continue to grow, continue to learn and continue to change. I strive to be better, every day. I strive to be more content, every day. And I strive to accept myself just as I am, flaws and all!! HAPPY WEEKEND ♥


8 thoughts on “Loving Ourselves

  1. I have always stood ready to help others (if it wasn’t too much trouble).
    That’s a little bit of selfishness and self-centeredness that I need to harness as a spirited and sometimes bucking bronco may be harnessed in order to bring him to good use.
    We who are familiar with our spiritual program and our persistent shortcomings know there is always room for improvement and I for one am restless and discontented lots of times with shortcomings which persist and ding bobbitt bring along a kind of guilt and possibly some shame.
    You know what this is called in some circles.
    It’s called “shuilt”, that awful mixture of shame and guilt.
    Self-pity might rear its ugly head and declare, ‘it’s a little late in this life to tolerate these real but uninvited feelings’.
    So I have to watch out about these shortcomings.
    They have a way of feeding off their own selves.

    So here comes another along who is tearfully pleading for help and admits knowing it cannot be done alone.
    It’s not like they haven’t been helped a lot already.
    Has it done any good?
    God only knows!

    . . . our Society has concluded that it has but one high mission – to carry the A.A. message to those who don’t know there’s a way out.
    The “Light” to freedom shines bright on my fellow alcoholics as each one of us challenges the other to grow. The “Steps” to self-improvement have small beginnings, but each Step builds the “ladder” out of the pit of despair to new hope. Honesty becomes my “tool” to unfurl the “chains” which bound me. A sponsor, who is a caring listener, can help me to truly hear the message guiding me to freedom.
    I ask God for the courage to live in such a way that the Fellowship may be a testimony to His favor. This mission frees me to share my gifts of wellness through a spirit of readiness to serve others.
    From the book Daily Reflections
    Copyright © 1990 by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic. – Georgia, US of A.

    • Thanks for the share, I especially need the reminder I will help if it is not too much trouble. Then if I help and people don’t follow through, I start a resentment. Not a good loving way for me to practice the principals of aa.

  2. We are directed, p.83, “asking each morning in meditation that Our Creator show us the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness and love.”
    I like that; it is straightforward and clear cut.
    Practical; it is what I need do if I wish to “stay in fit spiritual condition” and “earn” my “daily reprieve”.
    As a Child of the Universe, I am absolutely as loveable and worthy as every other Child, no more, no less.
    As I followed this new way of life, shame and guilt recede.
    As I act faithfully, faith replaces fear.
    As I accepted others I came to accept myself.
    As I forgave others I came to forgive myself.
    As I helped others I helped myself.
    As I do, I become, for today.
    Grateful for the Gift.

  3. a good day to all, thanks for all your shares, thanks Bonnie for your lead and insight, thanks to all the regulars. even though we don’t always reply back, we do always appreciate.

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