Neglected Doorways

In the chapter on Step Three, the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions states: “There is only one key, and it is called willingness.” (p. 34) Although this quote originates from the discussion of turning things over to a greater power than our own, it applies to just about any difficult endeavor. Although I often tell myself that I have confronted all of my fears and faced every challenge I’ve been given, the truth is that some neglected doorways remain in my life. I have not turned the key in those locks. In some cases I have not even approached the door.

I want to tell myself that “yeah, maybe someday I’ll do that” is the same as “willingness” but it is not. In the Eight Step, willingness does not come until we have put someone’s name on a paper, wrote down what harm we caused this person, discussed it with our sponsor, then committed to making amends as soon as the opportunity presents itself. Until I get something out of my head, onto paper and out in the open with a trusted advisor, I have not become willing. If my willingness is authentic, if it is the kind that will turn the key, then it will translate into prompt action. If willingness stops short of opening the door at least a tiny bit, then it lives in theory only. A key that stays in my pocket will never get me to the other side.


3 thoughts on “Neglected Doorways

  1. kt on July 4, 2015 at 10:51 pm
    Prayer for the Day

    I pray that I may try to steer a straight course. I pray that I may accept God’s direction in my life’s journey.
    From Twenty-Four Hours

    Greetings to each of you, grateful for the program of aa. Kt

  2. One of the earliest experiences commonly reported by ongoing members of Alcoholics Anonymous is that they received hope at the first meeting they attended.
    Does hope spring eternal in the human breast?
    Wasn’t it already there?
    Well yes but dampened so or muted by the relentless disease of alcoholism in which the part of our ego which can never be satisfied has once again failed to be satisfied in the delusional state of believing that just one more drink will do the trick. This had failed for so long yet the disease of alcoholism would never let us believe it.
    So seeing others in hearing others speak of there on experience, strength and hope and show the facts of recovery fueled invigorated hope and another common experience of the assent to something called a “Pink Cloud” which happens to be one of the sweetest experiences known to man.

    Rachel Jones reflects this morning on hope as being an aspect or product of character.
    This mysterious part of every being is a gift which is enhanced by practice.

    Romans 5:5 Hope does not disappoint.

    I can never read about hope being a product of character without thinking of a line from one of my favorite poems, “I never saw a wild thing feel sorry for itself.” Hope born of character building is by its very nature wild and empty of self-pity. It is the rugged and tireless confidence that things are going to get better, in this life or the next, so we might as well find a way to be kind, loving, and joyful.
    “Hope,” said Emily Dickenson “is the thing with wings…” Hope is filling the unexpected and scary prescription and still buying the plane tickets. It’s putting a reserved treat in the fridge for no good reason other than the conviction that something worth celebrating is going to happen.

    Picking up the phone or writing the letter, asking for or offering forgiveness all are exhibitions of hope in our everyday lives. Hope is what gives us the will to do one more—one more breath, one more prayer, one more day. Hope saves us, keeps us going, and reminds us that God’s goodness and grace are waiting to surprise, satisfy, and delight us with unexpected joy and love.—Rachel Jones

    We all hoped we would enjoy a delicious treat of homemade peach ice cream yesterday and believe me Hope Did Not Disappoint.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic. – Georgia, US of A.

  3. Greta wee discussion on willingness – a teriffic reminder about the difference between willingness and wishful thinking.
    I can tend to confuse the two.
    One is actually just head ego fantasy stuff; the other the first action towards resolution.
    Gonna have a good long think on this one…may need to illuminate a few nooks and crannies…
    Grateful for the gift

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