Responsible Actions

THANK YOU ALL for your comments from yesterday! Harry, Please share as you will…I was only trying to uphold the whatever we call them on this blog-in a meeting, it is the traditions…but CLEARLY…YOU BRING VALUE!! Love YOU!
Peace of mind – is something I dearly wanted when I was new to recovery. I have heard enumerable times about the peace of mind that is experienced by members who are practicing the 9th Step. It’s a great relief to “come clean” about my part is whatever behavior has been expressed in my disease. It is said that we are only as sick as our secrets – and I believe that to be true, at least that has been my experience. Avoiding people I wronged has been my way of making my amends, that is until I started working the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. I have had some good experiences making amends – but there has also been some amends that were very challenging. Some were well received while other amends were not accepted in the manner hoped. But the idea behind the amends in working on my behavior, not the behavior of others. Remembering that, has helped me to get to the other side of any anger I may be faced with when making amends. I am no longer alone in my misery, today I am surrounded by sober, happy people who know the value of amends, and the value of the solid friendships, which are available to all in the rooms of recovery and sobriety, as well as on THIS24! I learned today of the passing of my God Mother, my Auntie…so prayers for me-will be welcomed as THIS is a DIFFICULT DEATH to process. She was one of us. And my mentor!! ♥♥♥



Today, I can forgive others their hurtful ways, I can work to inspire others with hope, and I can find the patience to listen to the problems of others – without interjecting my own woes. By the Grace of my Higher Power I can stand up for what I believe in, I can pray a prayer of gratitude. I trust in my Higher Power to lead me to a place of love, forgiveness, grace, and generosity. When I look at my past I know that I am here for a reason, for left to my own devices I would probably not be alive today. It is my turn to pass it on by making myself available to others. Those of us who struggle to find sobriety are at that place because we need to be, otherwise we would not be in the rooms of A.A. All that is required of any of us is the “desire to stop drinking.” What I wanted from A.A., compared to what I received is totally immeasurable. But when I combine both the Program and my Higher Power, I know that I have been given the “keys” to peace and serenity.

Instinct Or Intuition?

In the process of getting and staying sober I have found that I could learn to trust myself. My life is no longer the extremes that it used to be. Today I can be myself and I can trust myself to take care of me. I no longer “get lost” along the way. I don’t have to leave town in order to release my disease. My disease has been tempered with sobriety and recovery. I do not have to fear myself, and my lack of control any more. I can and do trust myself, and I trust the God of my understanding as well as the Program of A.A.

I know that I can not drink alcohol . . . for me it means to return to a life of misery, lies, shame, and all those horrible blank spots aptly named “blackouts.” And then there were those times when others would say “Boy, you really tied one on last night.” And I would be thinking “Who are you? And what is my connection to you?” Today, my instincts are getting sharper, and I no longer reach out for that “hot stove” only to find out it really will burn me. I do not have to “test the water” to know that I cannot drink, I understand that, I know that, and I believe that to be true for me – without a doubt. Today I have a conscious, one that helps me to learn what is okay and, more importantly, what is not okay. I enjoy the freedom that sobriety gives me and I work towards the goals of trusting me, and trusting my Higher Power.

Photo and Reflection courtesy of Maggs!!
Photo courtesy of Maggs!!

The Way Out

AA’s founders had hoped to name the Big Book “The Way Out” but there were already 25 books by that name. So they chose Alcoholics Anonymous instead. I have known alcoholics who gave up alcohol without the help of AA. They found a way out of drunkenness. But they had no way out of the rest of their problems. They were still selfish. They were still manipulative and dishonest. And they were mean. Maybe there are some friendly dry drunks out there, but I haven’t met any.

AA is much more than the way out of the bar. It is the way out of a life consumed by fear, resentment, self-seeking and a perpetually restless heart. AA does not teach moral behavior. It removes the need to be a jerk. AA has cleaned up my act from the inside out. Society has benefitted, my family, friends and colleagues have benefitted, and I have greatly benefitted in ways that never stop unfolding.

From what I have witnessed and experienced, here is only one road clear out of misery. There are many different people on this path. They have may different beliefs and styles and dreams. But they all have one thing in common: they want the real deal, the full fix, the peace inside and not just the dry desert outside. I see only one road. Let us make it wide enough for all to walk.

Reflection courtesy of ZUZU
Reflection courtesy of ZUZU


I came to the tables willing, open and sincerely seeking honesty. That was some time ago, and yet I still search for those things in my life today. Alcoholics Anonymous is a program of hope, and hope was there the very first time I came looking for it. To be “hope-less” is to die a thousand deaths each day. Life can challenge me, but today I know that I just have to focus on living this life one day at a time. Whatever errors I make today, I can rectify tonight by working the 10th Step. Whatever lessons I learn today, I can share with others. And whatever hope I have today, I know is the direct result of participating in my own recovery. How truly blessed we are to be under the care of the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, and our Higher Power!!