I give of myself to others and receive no less than the blessing of sobriety for it. While I can take no credit for the sobriety of others, I can and do claim the sobriety I get from others. It’s kind of circular, when you think of it . . . and yet it is also individualism at it’s highest point. Being a friend to others has its own rewards, as keeping busy leaves me little time for self-absorption, and selfish thinking. If I can focus my mind on helping another alcoholic, staying sober comes more readily to me. This philosophy can be confusing – I work to eliminate my selfishness, and yet learning to give of myself requires selfishness because I need to work on my recovery. If I am not here to be of service to others – no one will benefit, including me.