1. Speak to people. There is nothing as nice as a big cheerful word of greeting.

2. Smile at people. It takes 72 muscles to frown and only 14 to smile.

3. Call people by name. The sweetest music to anyone’s ear is the sound of their own name.

4. Be friendly and helpful. If you would have friends, be friendly.

5. Be cordial. Speak and act as if everything you do is a genuine pleasure.

6. Be generous with praise and cautious with criticism.

7. Be thoughtful of the opinions of others. There are three sides to a controversy: yours, the other person’s and the right one.

8. Be alert to give service. What counts most in life is what we do for others.

9. Be genuinely interested in people. You can like almost everyone if you try.

10. Be considerate of the feelings of others.

-My comment:Take the steps, get a sponsor and get into service!! Learning how to treat others is part of the process of recovery. During my drinking days, I had little respect for others, and expected none from others. I was defensive, to the point of rudeness. Following the above suggestions goes far towards making friends, and being a single woman, a widow, I need friends to help me stave off those bouts of loneliness that can strike at any moment. I hear from many sources that to have friends requires that I be a friend, and I am working towards that goal. The above “commandments” are good advice, for me and for anyone wanting to learn the way to friendships with others. I’m not real good with names, but I do recognize faces, and when all else fails I can say “Hi, my name is Bonnie, and yours is . . .?” It’s pretty amazing the things we learn in recovery, A.A. is a true blessing.