Responsible Actions

THANK YOU ALL for your comments from yesterday! Harry, Please share as you will…I was only trying to uphold the whatever we call them on this blog-in a meeting, it is the traditions…but CLEARLY…YOU BRING VALUE!! Love YOU!
Peace of mind – is something I dearly wanted when I was new to recovery. I have heard enumerable times about the peace of mind that is experienced by members who are practicing the 9th Step. It’s a great relief to “come clean” about my part is whatever behavior has been expressed in my disease. It is said that we are only as sick as our secrets – and I believe that to be true, at least that has been my experience. Avoiding people I wronged has been my way of making my amends, that is until I started working the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. I have had some good experiences making amends – but there has also been some amends that were very challenging. Some were well received while other amends were not accepted in the manner hoped. But the idea behind the amends in working on my behavior, not the behavior of others. Remembering that, has helped me to get to the other side of any anger I may be faced with when making amends. I am no longer alone in my misery, today I am surrounded by sober, happy people who know the value of amends, and the value of the solid friendships, which are available to all in the rooms of recovery and sobriety, as well as on THIS24! I learned today of the passing of my God Mother, my Auntie…so prayers for me-will be welcomed as THIS is a DIFFICULT DEATH to process. She was one of us. And my mentor!! ♥♥♥


6 thoughts on “Responsible Actions

  1. It is important to make direct amends whenever possible. That has to come before what we in AA often call living amends. I make my living amends by making a change in my behavior. I often isolated. Now I make it a point to reach out to old friends and go to events that I would prefer to skip. I used to be too drunk to drive, now I drive my children whenever they need me. I used to drive preoccupied or hungover. Luckily/with the grace of God (each reader can choose their preferred sentiment), nothing happened but I still owe an amend to society. I now drive alertly without texting, searching on GPS, or otherwise using phone inappropriately.

  2. 🙂 Sister I will certainly be praying for you and yours now and from now on. 🙂

    Recently I found that I was violating an agreement not to post links to other websites made just by entering the website. It went on to give reasons for this inhibition and after I pondered over this and realized I had tacitly agreed just by the fact of being there in the first place I understand that I should comply.
    I don’t particularly like it because I feel that it impedes sharing my experience, strength and hope to some degree but nevertheless I probably need this discipline.
    I certainly should never feel that I have to apologize for God as I understand him and this passage out of our textbook of recovery reinforces this.
    If we belong to a religious denomination which requires a definite
    morning devotion, we attend to that also. If not members
    of religious bodies, we sometimes select and
    memorize a few set prayers which emphasize the
    principles we have been discussing. There are many
    helpful books also. Suggestions about these may be
    obtained from one’s priest, minister, or rabbi.

    Be quick to see where religious people are right.

    Make use of what they offer. – Big Book p 87

    And on the broad subject of God as I understand him:

    At the muezzin’s call for prayer,
    The kneeling faithful thronged the square,
    And on Pushkara’s lofty height
    The dark priest chanted Brahma’s might.
    Amid a monastery’s weeds
    An old Franciscan told his beads;
    While to the synagogue there came
    A Jew to praise Jehovah’s name.
    The one great God looked down and smiled
    And counted each His loving child;
    For Turk and Brahmin, monk and Jew
    Had reached Him through the gods they knew.

    Harry Romaine—Ad Cœlum. In Munsey’s Mag. Jan. 1895.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic. – Georgia, US of A.

  3. I go back and forth on the amends I did and guess I need to revisit my 4th Step or maybe a “do over” would be good? When I first tried to get sober 10 years ago, my self-esteem was so low that I had a habit of apologizing to others for just about everything I did. My father used to tell me to cut it out. So, when I did my 8th and 9th step, I felt a bit weird apologizing to others for somewhat small “offenses” like isolating etc. when isolating is a symptom or consequence of alcoholism. A result of alcoholism is isolation so I guess I struggled to apologize for consequences of a disease I didn’t choose to have. I grew up in a family of HEAVY drinkers and just learned behavior. Does that make sense? I’m sort of thinking out loud, but it probably was a good exercise to at least acknowledge my behavior when I did the 4th Step and then get into action with Steps 8/9. Other amends were certainly necessary and to my employer especially–although they were enablers to some extent as was my family. Here I go again! LOL Anyway, I’ve been sober for over 9 years and now at least make a living amends by staying sober and doing my best to live by spiritual principles and treat others with respect. I guess the 8th and 9th Steps were good and taught me humility.

  4. Top of the morning family,
    It’s a great relief to “come clean” That’s no lie.
    Today, I prefer to be clean than dirty. Today, when I get that knot in my stomach, ”my red flag” I have something to work on that’s dirty inside of me. There’s something in myself/life that I have to change. This is where/why the spiritual principals are so powerful.
    The steps are a direct assault on one’s ego/self. Simple, but not easy; a price had to be paid. It meant destruction of self-centeredness. I had to quit using my past as an excuse, excuse my excuses, and take action. Who I am and what I achieve are directly related by how and what I think?!?! Today, the responsible action is to surrender to the One who created me to guide me.

    Prayers out Bonnie, that you may find acceptance, peace, and comfort in your Auntie’s passing.

    “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou

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