For Newcomers who may nervously and reluctantly enter the door of their first AA meeting, hearing themselves applauded and acknowledged as “the most important person in the room” can seem very ironic and maybe even manipulative.  It takes them a long time to learn the truth – that they are extremely important, not because they desperately need to get sober, but because we need them in order to stay sober.  Even that can sound a little vampire-like.  But it really has to do with the fact that Newcomers help us remember how it felt to pry ourselves away from the grip of unmanageability.  If we allow ourselves to forget, then we will slip out the same door we entered, maybe never finding our way back.  As the Newcomer struggles with understanding what has happened, how he has come to this point, and what lies ahead for him, we light the way for him.  In doing so, we teach ourselves again and again how it works, what must be done, how to help, how to give back.  We sound the trumpets and herald his entrance.  We bow and greet him.  He is the messenger who has traveled across the battlefield to find us.  He is the agent of our continued reprieve.


10 thoughts on “WELCOME

  1. My soul rests with you, my Anamchara.

    All I knew is I wanted a new way of living because I just simply couldn’t stand the way I had been living. I saw a broad view of people who seem to be living a happy and contented life who repeatedly told me they were unhappy with the way they were and had found peace and serenity in practicing a spiritual program of daily living.
    They called this way of living, “Sobriety”.


    Preparation is necessary for any achievement. It’s true in the physical aspects of our lives and it’s true in the spiritual realm as well. Just as we wouldn’t attempt running a marathon without months of training and preparation, we cannot expect to be in peak spiritual shape without sufficient groundwork. If we want to become holy people, worthy of receiving the Lord, we can’t expect to wake up one day and be ready. It takes days, weeks, months, and years of consistent preparation.
    How does one prepare spiritually? The same way we would physically. Make a plan and stick to a schedule. Prayer, bible study, and acts of kindness are all character-builders that help with our spiritual preparedness. When we intentionally make these a central part of our daily lives, we will surely be ready on the day of God’s ultimate revelation. – Rabbi Eckhart.

    A Morning Resolve
    I will try this day to live a simple, sincere and serene life, repelling promptly every thought of discontent, anxiety, discouragement, impurity, and self-seeking; cultivating cheerfulness, magnanimity, charity, and the habit of holy silence; exercising economy in expenditure, generosity in giving, carefulness in conversation, diligence in appointed service, fidelity to every trust, and a childlike faith in God.

    In particular I will try to be faithful in those habits of prayer, work, study, physical exercise, eating, play and sleep which I believe the Holy Spirit has shown me to be right.

    And as I cannot in my own strength do this, nor even with a hope of success attempt it, I look to thee, O God of my understanding, and ask for the gift of the Holy Spirit. Amen. FDBD.

    I’m so happy I found it.
    I’m so grateful I’m still finding it.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12th stepper. – Georgia, US of A.

    • Just catching up on last few days; so belated and heartfelt congratulations to Doc on another milestone.
      What a tremendous source of inspiration and peace and wisdom. From Anamchara to Zoroastrianism, I have been shown portals to so much from his sharing on this board.
      But mostly I have seen persistent reliance on a consistent connection.
      Example rather than exhortation.
      My life is better as a consequence.
      Deeply grateful.

  2. Great reminder and also a reminder of how lucky I am to have made it into the rooms of AA. A family member is having serious alcohol/drug issues and just refuses to get help. He is surrounded by enablers who make excuses about “self medicating” his mental illness rather than first putting the plug in the jug–don’t most people “self medicate” when they drink alcohol? The mental health issues can be dealt with after all the alcohol etc. is removed. Anyway, it’s just a reminder that a lot of people with this disease do not make it. When I was in treatment, a fellow “student” (Medical Doctor) reminded me that a lot of alcoholics just don’t make it and they eventually DIE. I’m grateful today to be sober.

  3. Yes, welcome to everyone who wants to claim a seat. Sometimes we have to teach them they’re not special or unique and must identify or die because as long as we look for the differences we will never become part of the group. I hear something i can identify with from everyone here, like everyday, thanks. i choose to stay on the path today with my fellow trudgers. God bless

  4. I try to live by Harry’s Morning Resolve. By doing is the only way I can help myself and others. Thank God I have another day to live a life in peace, love and happiness.

  5. I love The Morning Resolve.
    It’s straight forward and to the point- get’s right to the heart of the matter.
    Trust God, Clean House, Help Others….so I am off to the broom closet.
    Grateful for the Gift.

  6. Sweet word to hear,
    Thanks, it’s good to be here.
    The rooms are filled with givers and takers. We need each other.

    DR 25 Jan
    Tradition Three, concentrating on the one way I am similar to others, brought me to know and help every kind of alcoholic, just as they have helped me. Charlotte, the atheist, showed me higher standards of ethics and honor; Clay, of another race, taught me patience; Winslow, who is gay, led me by example into true compassion; Young Megan says that seeing me at meetings, sober thirty years, keeps her coming back. Tradition Three insured that we would get what we need — each other.

    If not the fellowship, where do I go to love another as myself?

    It’s a good day to have a good day.

  7. Thanks Harry. I mistakenly called it Shaw Botanical Garden.
    In my shot, I tried to frame the opposite gate in the gate in front gate
    The person who took today’s shot in your post, centered the first gate and the
    opposite gate was not centered.
    I found no matter where I stood you cannot center both in the same frame.

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