I really don’t think I began to learn about being responsible for my own feelings and behavior until some time into recovery. I still try to accept the responsibility for the behavior of others, when it is clearly not mine to assume. I encourage others to make their own decisions, to take the responsibility for their own actions and behavior, and to quit blaming others for their problems. On our chips is imprinted “To Thine Own self Be True.” That tends to put the responsibility right where it belongs, in my own lap. If I want change in my life, I am responsible for the actions that will cause that change. If others try to hold me responsible for their behavior, it is up to me to let them know that I am responsible for myself, not the behavior of others. My Higher Power reminds me through my actions of just what part of being responsible for my behavior, is solely mine, and what part is not mine. Today, I am responsible for me.



6 thoughts on “Responsibility!!!

  1. My soul rests with you, my Anamchara.

    A friend of mine made a decision that he was going to practice what we preach or he was going to practice what he was coming to believe and he decided to go for a whole day without being judgmental and critical in an open and hostile way towards anyone who may have offended him in any way.
    Now this is a tall order.
    During the day he was assisted by an obviously rude and discourteous clerk in a store and he smiled and said to her, “Thank you very much for waiting on me, I appreciate it very much”.
    I don’t know for sure of course but I’ll bet you this set a new tone for her day.
    After all, wasn’t she having a bad day?
    And I further but you that my friend had a good day.

    This is kind of like the truck driver who joined a spiritual movement and later when asked how he knew God is with him in his life he responded, “Well when someone comes up close behind me, I don’t pull towards the shoulder and throw rocks up at them anymore”

    “Keep smiling, and one day life will get tired of upsetting you.” — Unknown Author

    My sponsor often told me, “It’s an inside job”.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12th stepper.

  2. wheew, just caught up. Powerful poetry Ain. Think I’ll just try and listen today. Grateful for all the years here on This 24. It just amazes me how much a lil website can help so much in so many ways and it’s all becasue of the lead and shares. Even the seemingly insignificant lil share can be a profound healer.

  3. I have been working on what I call the Monkey Mantra. Hear no evil. See no evil. Speak no evil. I should say think no evil but thoughts come in uninvited, as long as I don’t act on the thought. I caught myself many a time not standing by this Mantra, more than I would like to admit. It takes discipline and guidance from the G-d of my understanding. I like that Harry!! “Keep smiling, and one day life will get tired of upsetting you.” And I agree 3D this little site is very powerful!! I thank you all. Namaste

  4. Top of the morning family,
    To do this new order for a responsible life, I must trust and rest in the One who created me. I’m not responsible for every thought that crosses my membrane; however, I do have responsibility and accountability for all my words and actions. When I push/shove ahead, disappointment, pain, and loss are coming straight to, in, and at me. Self will never deny what self-desires. Self will always fight changes. When self-centeredness is destroyed, I can accept changes for my own good. Keeping my hand in His is my core battle tool. When my spiritual battle rhythm is calm and relaxed, my heart receives His grace/desires for me. His freedom plan of peace and hope starts operating in my life. His presence in my life is a reminder that He has everything under control.

    My well’er often hints this to me: We have no control over a bird that flies above us; we do have culpability when that same bird starts building a nest on our heads.

    It’s a good day to have a good day.

  5. Responsibility?
    For myself?
    Whew…I would have told you when I stumbled in amongst you that of course I was responsible for myself. What I wouldn’t have said, and you saw so plainly, was that I was making a pretty poor job of it, and didn’t even know the self imposed burden I carried.
    You didn’t say anything much beyond “welcome, you are among friends”.
    And then patiently you demonstrated by your thoughts, words and deeds a new way of living.
    Slowly, I witnessed something I had never seen before, and as I tried it a bit myself, imperceptibly, life began to change. I became capable of being responsible for myself by beginning to lead a principled life. I began to sense that I was responsible for my part, no more and no less, in acquiring a heart over brimming with love.
    As I began to grow up, I entered into a new world.
    Grateful for the Gift

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