Primary Purpose

There are those who do not like the idea of a newcomer attending a meeting, if they have been drinking. If it is their desire to attend a meeting and they do not disrupt the meeting in any way, I do not have a problem with them in a meeting. Not all of us arrive at the tables in excellent shape, and it’s good for us to remember our early days when we are “working” with a newcomer. Kindness, patience, and tolerance are but a few of the spiritual principles at play here. I do not adhere to the “tough love” approach to sponsoring – but the good news is that we each have the right to sponsor as we deem appropriate, and we each have the right to work our Program, as we see fit. There is no right or wrong way to travel the road to a “happy destiny.” We each have been given the gift of choice, and as it is with our primary purpose, the message of sobriety is one that continues to bless all who seek recovery.


7 thoughts on “Primary Purpose

  1. Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it.’’ Do not be discouraged.
    No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these
    principles. We are not saints. The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines.
    The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather
    than spiritual perfection. — How It Works………

    And Maggie said:
    “Wisdom has little to do with our mental ability. With our Higher Power alongside us, we can achieve anything, even long-term recovery ONE DAT AT A TIME. In our Serenity Prayer, we ask God for wisdom and patience. It will come, as a result of treating our Program, the meetings, and the message as precious things that really matter. Wisdom comes to ordinary people like ourselves who try to live the program ONE DAY AT A TIME, not overnight, but as the accumulation of many 24 hours. Wisdom comes with practice, the practice of living a new way of life, a spiritual life resulting from our 12 Step Program.”

    And Harry says:
    “The road to wisdom is plain and simple to express; to err and err and err again but less and less and less”

    And Chuck C says:
    “When we know better we do better”.

    With my mind freed up and not being either under the physical or mental influences of alcohol the odds are in my favor.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12th stepper.

  2. I’m still here doing what I can when I can. My schedule has taken some getting used to and I’m doing meetings as best I can. Good to catch up with a couple days off from my new job and glad to see or read ya’ll. Peace out brotha’s and sista’s

  3. I learned kindness, patience, and tolerance in the rooms of AA. I need to be better at practicing those virtues in my daily affairs.

  4. In my personal experience, it can be pretty helpful when a drunk drunk shows up at a meeting.
    Newcomers, fresh in their own recovery, get a vivid reminder.
    Those of us getting a wee bit cocky about maybe thinking we’ve become bullet proof are bluntly shown what we were perhaps like.
    Distraction from our primary purpose vanishes.
    Our principles assert themselves boldly in our action and compassion; self centredness recedes.
    We are all joined in fellowship.
    We are reminded of the BB query “What would the Master do?”
    Grateful for the Gift

  5. Thanks and I don’t have a problem if someone shows up drunk and is a bit disorderly. I need every reminder I can get! I just have to remember that AA is “one day at a time” and I could go back to that life if I don’t constantly remember my failed attempts to control my drinking. I don’t beat myself up, but I just try to stay humble.

  6. When I went back to a meeting after having a slip after 10 years, someone at the meeting said,” I don’t want to go back to where you are!”
    I took it so personally, that I stayed out for a few more years and recovery from then until this last time, was sporadic!
    I gain acute insight from newcomers now, but will never say what was said me, only a huge hug and a “welcome back!”

  7. patience, tolerance and understanding . . .
    these are the tools needed for working with others,
    we do not execute our wounded.
    when anyone, and we mean “ANYONE” reaches out for help,
    i want the hand of AA always to be there.

    keep trudging my friends

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