Resentment always creates a “good” meeting and brings forth a volume of feelings and “suggestions” from those in attendance. When I first went to work learning about resentments, which was when I worked the 4th Step, my sponsor asked me for a list of people I resented, I told her that I didn’t have any resentments – well…. that brought on a bout of laughter, and the instructions to take another look. So I went back through my Fourth Step and found that I did resent some people in my life, and I did resent some “systems” in so far as fair pay and equal rights. My sponsor told me to look closer, to look for those who played a significant role in my life. I am grateful that the Program has opened my eyes to the real affect of resentments,….as it is something that I have needed to learn for many, many years.


5 thoughts on “Resentment?

  1. My soul rests with you, my Anamchara.

    Sometimes I just have to be still and like the Padawan keep a keen interest in what the next lesson may be.

    Above all I must know that God desires need to have His fruits which are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

    May we all walk in integrity.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12th stepper.

  2. It was easier for me to find people I was angry at than people I had harmed. When I looled at my.resentment list I realized I had harmed them all is some way. Maybe they had harmed me too, but this was my list.

  3. It took me more than a little while to finally get the fact that my resentments hurt me, not the other person.
    That when I finally did forgive, I liberated my spirit to rejoin life.
    Page 552 of the Big Book gave me explicit instructions about how to do so.
    Life ain’t been the same since.
    Grateful for the Gift

  4. Top of the morning family,
    Resentments give “my” permission to others to direct/control my self-worth, happiness, peace, and desires.
    Number 3 of the 5 things I must do every day: Find a mentor. This mentor usually appears most often as someone that pisses me off. For this mentor has become my new’er teacher. It’s the person in the mirror that needs changing and new’er adjustments.

    Heard from a speaker cd not long ago:
    Resentments take hard work. They must be held close, fed, sheltered, and kept warm. If one doesn’t take good care of them, the resentment will die. Then what good is the resentment if it dies.

    It’s a good day to have a good day.

  5. I consider a resentment, anytime a thought enters my and causes me to re-feel
    something again over and over.
    It go could be anger, shame, guilt, fear, insult or injury.
    If I continue sensing this, I need to deal with it.

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