Living Now

In the Program we are advised to “work” Step Ten, at night, before falling off to sleep. Working Step Ten, for many, means a review of the days activities and interactions with others. I look for mistakes in my exchange with others. In conversations I may have not said what I intended, or maybe I was rude without meaning to be rude. I look for old self-defeating behaviors and actions that did not work in my life before or after I began the recovery process. I did not grow up with any sense of courtesy beyond the standard “please and thank you.” I forget or don’t remember to acknowledge another members pain, or the hardship someone else is going through. I forget how hard it is to share the difficult times in life, it’s always easier to share the good things. Step Ten further encourages me to be prompt about admitting my wrongs. Not to do so means that I’m carrying around a lot of unnecessary “baggage.” Faults that may be used to undermine my recovery. So action is a key factor in Step Ten. How do you view step 10?

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Photo Courtesy of Rocky

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8 thoughts on “Living Now

  1. 30
    July
    GIVING BACK
    . . . he has struck something better than gold. . . .He may not see at once that he has barely scratched a limitless lode which will pay dividends only if he mines it for the rest of his life and insists on giving away the entire product.
    — ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 129

    A parable!

    Search for the truth.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12th stepper.

  2. Well, since you asked…
    Page 84 of our basic text contains a powerful, pivotal paragraph right after the rhetorical affirmation of the promises, so frequently read aloud at our meetings.
    Pivotal because it guides us from “cleaning up the past” to how we are to now live, having ” entered the world of the Spirit”.
    And, crucially, it contains deeper instruction on Step 10 than the brief summation posted on our meeting room walls.
    1. We are to continue to watch for our character defects,
    2. When (not if) they appear we ask God for their removal,
    3. We discuss them immediately with another human being,
    4. We make amends quickly,
    5. We RESOLUTELY put our minds to someone we can help.
    And then the powerful declaration declaring our “code”, our new way of life, which we have chosen to follow: “Love and tolerance of others”.
    To me, this is a deep commitment to a new way of life, and much more provocative than aquick “oops, I’m sorry, let me make it better” when I make a booboo.
    Indeed, it does become a limitless lode, as we embody Step 10 into our being.
    It becomes the essence of productive humility.
    Grateful for the Gift

  3. Thank you for your heartfelt words on Step 10, I liked what you said about sharing with other people, I have always been a people pleaser, so for me Step 10 and the nightly prayer is good for me at my gently nuding from my sponsor. NIGHT PRAYER
    God, forgive me where I have been resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid today. Help me to not keep anything to myself but to discuss it all openly with another person – show me where I owe an apology and help me make it. Help me to be kind and loving to all people. Use me in the mainstream of life, God. Free me of worry, remorse or morbid (sick) reflections that I may be of usefulness to others. AMEN
    (Both derived from page 86 in the Big Book

  4. Tom S
    Jul 30, 2016 @ 04:54:23
    Well, since you asked…
    Page 84 of our basic text contains a powerful, pivotal paragraph right after the rhetorical affirmation of the promises, so frequently read aloud at our meetings.
    Pivotal because it guides us from “cleaning up the past” to how we are to now live, having ” entered the world of the Spirit”.
    And, crucially, it contains deeper instruction on Step 10 than the brief summation posted on our meeting room walls.
    1. We are to continue to watch for our character defects,
    2. When (not if) they appear we ask God for their removal,
    3. We discuss them immediately with another human being,
    4. We make amends quickly,
    5. We RESOLUTELY put our minds to someone we can help.
    And then the powerful declaration declaring our “code”, our new way of life, which we have chosen to follow: “Love and tolerance of others”.
    To me, this is a deep commitment to a new way of life, and much more provocative than aquick “oops, I’m sorry, let me make it better” when I make a booboo.
    Indeed, it does become a limitless lode, as we embody Step 10 into our being.
    It becomes the essence of productive humility.
    Grateful for the Gift
    **********
    So is looking inside “The Load”?

    Tom S
    Jul 30, 2016 @ 04:54:23
    Well, since you asked…
    Page 84 of our basic text contains a powerful, pivotal paragraph right after the rhetorical affirmation of the promises, so frequently read aloud at our meetings.
    Pivotal because it guides us from “cleaning up the past” to how we are to now live, having ” entered the world of the Spirit”.
    And, crucially, it contains deeper instruction on Step 10 than the brief summation posted on our meeting room walls.
    1. We are to continue to watch for our character defects,
    2. When (not if) they appear we ask God for their removal,
    3. We discuss them immediately with another human being,
    4. We make amends quickly,
    5. We RESOLUTELY put our minds to someone we can help.
    And then the powerful declaration declaring our “code”, our new way of life, which we have chosen to follow: “Love and tolerance of others”.
    To me, this is a deep commitment to a new way of life, and much more provocative than aquick “oops, I’m sorry, let me make it better” when I make a booboo.
    Indeed, it does become a limitless lode, as we embody Step 10 into our being.
    It becomes the essence of productive humility.
    Grateful for the Gift
    **************

    So is looking inside “The Load”?

    God as I was searching for him was the one!

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12th stepper.

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