Love Me Love You

The day I made my self-care a priority was the day I also opened myself up to more truly loving others.
– Naomi Roscoe
Over-commitment is a juggling act in which we try to keep several balls in the air at once. We juggle our job, family, and self-care responsibilities at a furious speed until we tire or feel overwhelmed, the first ball we usually drop is self-care, promising ourselves we will pick it up again “when we have time.” We can begin today to get our priorities straight again and put out own needs at the top of our daily list. If we love ourselves enough to make self-care a top priority, everything else will fall into place. Today let us remember that I can give to others in direct proportion to my ability to nurture my own needs. (Quote from Mind Body and Spirit)


2 thoughts on “Love Me Love You

  1. It seems I totally missed this life lesson(Steps 4,5,6,7 and especially 10 and 11) much to my chagrin and I was to pay dearly as time went on and my failure to reach emotional maturity with its accompanying security brought much regret.

    Of course if I had come across a reading such as the one which follows during the critical adolescent years when I needed it so much I most likely would have blown it off or dismissed it because of the intellectual challenge which is present.

    But in spite of this I had ample opportunity to practice the principles by simply having a good friend and confidant and being able to put pride aside long enough to just simply talk about uncomfortable things that were going on.
    But I didn’t!
    It was many years later when I came across this in a latter-day spiritual program which requires re-examination of what had gone on and what was continuing to go on.

    What freedom there is in forms of confession and transparency.

    September 3

    Look at the Feeling

    Be explicitly aware of what is going on when you are in spiritual desolation. Name it to yourself. Recall its source and tendency. It will help here to be aware of a general principle about human psychology— that reflectively attending to our own affective experiences tends to weaken their hold on us, while attending to the object of affective acts or the ground of affective feelings tends to strengthen them. Thus, attending to the objects of anger or lust tends to intensify them; reflectively attending to the affections themselves tends to weaken them. —Jules J. Toner, SJ, Spirit of Light or Darkness?

    This is a very useful principle. Look at the feeling, not at the cause of the feeling: Why am I angry? Not, why did that person say that nasty thing? Recall a resentment you felt recently. How might this principle apply to it?

    Manney, Jim. An Ignatian Book of Days (p. 246). Loyola Press.

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12 stepper.

  2. Grateful for this blessed day, to be aware of the life all around me.
    To feel that I am of it, and it of me.
    To know that all is as it should be, in this moment.
    Egoic self will certainly respond to stimuli, according to its programming.
    My aware choice about my response- reflexive reaction with predictable consequence or considered action?
    Grateful for the Gift.

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