9 is fine!!! LOL

Looking, admitting and accepting – not something I do naturally. Usually, it is a second thought; a taking responsibility for, after re-thinking a situation or event. When I reflect back on my actions I can see where I have not fully accepted the responsibility for the events in my life. This is true especially when those events have resulted in behaviors that affected others negatively. I want to blame others, and I am so deluded that I talk myself into believing that I have little to no responsibility for what has occurred. It’s someone else’s fault – and I can get a bad case of the “if only’s,” to justify my part – if I acknowledge that I have a part, at all. In my early years it always seemed easier to just blame others, than it was to accept responsibility. Through the process of recovery I have learned what is mine and what is not mine, when it comes to being responsible. My business ends at the end of my nose.


4 thoughts on “9 is fine!!! LOL

  1. In our ongoing program of recovery we read “How It Works” at the opening of almost every meeting.
    It is the opening salvo in chapter 5 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and it is rich in principle.
    I became enchanted by this reading and I have paid rapt attention to it each and every time it has been read for the thousands of times I have heard it.

    “If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it, then you are ready to take certain steps”. — From How It Works; Chapter 5, Big Book.


    Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12 stepper.

  2. Yes…
    The big “If, And”
    If you want it…and are willing…
    Took many of us a long time to hook those two together in our actions.
    Many of us were more like “If, Sorta, Kinda” or “If, But”.
    And you still welcomed me.
    And I couldn’t get it.
    And you still made me feel welcome.
    And still I resisted.
    And yet you made me feel like I belonged…
    You loved me long enough and well enough for me to finally feel safe enough to give it an honest attempt…after two years…
    I have heard it said we cannot truly love others until we experience unconditional love ourselves; I don’t know; I am not a psychologist, but it has a ring to it.
    So today, to the newcomer, relapser, old timer and anyone else…we say “welcome”
    Grateful for the Gift

  3. Top of the morning family,
    It’s too early for snow….

    What ways/actions do I show Divine Mercy that my trust is in Him?
    Pssst, “amends / forgiveness”

    – 9th Step top shelf spiritual tool for “ego busting”.
    The prime directive of this process isn’t to explain/describe my side of things. The mission/purpose is to admit my wrongs that “I” committed; offer apology/ make restitution. I do not argue or criticize period; especially then their response isn’t to my likey or favorability to self. My amend approach is being in the spirit of humility and reconciliation – never my self justification(s). Then I will feel a new kind of peace. I will experience a new life of hope, not in self but in the love of His Mercy.
    When I trust/follow Divine Mercy’s will, I always get more than I ever thought was possible.

    They’ve got us surrounded again, the poor bastards” (Creighton Abrams)

    Its a good day for something golden will happen to us.

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