(This mornings reflection is from The Language Of Letting Go.”)
How easy it is to blame our problems on others. “Look at what he’s doing”. . . . “Look how long I’ve waited”. . . . “Why doesn’t she call?”. . . . “If only he’d change then I’d be happy”. . . .
Often, our accusations are justified. We probably are feeling hurt and frustrated. In those moments, we may begin to believe that the solution to our pain and frustration is getting the other person to do what we want, or having the outcome we desire. But these self-defeating illusions put the power and control of our life in other people’s hands. We call this codependency.
The solution to our pain and frustration, however valid, is to acknowledge our own feelings. We feel the anger, the grief; then we let go of the feelings and find peace – within ourselves. We know our happiness isn’t controlled by another person, even though we may have to convince ourselves it is, We call this acceptance.
Then we decide that although we’d like our situation to be different, maybe our life is happening this way for a reason. Maybe there is a higher purpose and plan in play, one that’s better than we could have orchestrated. We call this faith.
Then we decide what we need to do, what is in our power to do to take care of ourselves. That’s called recovery.
It’s easy to point our finger at another, but it’s more rewarding to gently point it at ourselves.\
Today, I will live with my pain and frustration by dealing with my own feelings.


5 thoughts on “Recovery

  1. Took me a long time to forego sufficient pride to do anything along the lines suggested…but slowly, ever so gradually your acceptance of me “as I was” let me drop my armour of denial enough to try a new approach.
    As I began relying on a “Power Greater Than Myself” I came into dominion over Self- God and I doing what I alone could not do before.
    In this new World of the Spirit I began to see, really see, what was mine and what was yours. And He was always there to show the difference.
    Things got a whole lot simpler, a whole lot easier and a whole lot better.
    They remain that way, for me, as long as I do my part.
    Grateful for the Gift

  2. Top of the midday day family,
    There are two wills that are constant: God’s will and king clay’s will. Every day we face our greatest weakness; the person in the mirror. Every day, Divine Mercy provides us with His grace to rise up from worldly things that pull us down. When I take the focus off of “me”, Divine Mercy will replace it with His spirit.
    His mercy is always free; I can afford free.

    “I cannot understand my own behavior. I fail to carry out the things I want to do and I find myself doing the very things I hate …. for though the will to do what is good is in me, the performance is not…. every single time I want to do good, it is something evil that comes to hand.” (Rom. 7:16,18,21)

    It’s a good day to have a good day.

  3. Thank you for your shares today, I am reminded of the 11th step prayer, where it talks about seek to comfort than to be comforted. I felt a sense of entitlement that people ought to reach out to me, and when I finally had my eyes open to this prayer, and these words I was able to say oh, I get what they are saying. So hope this finds this fine group ok and Sister Bonnie continues to heal her foot. Blessings kt

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