Why Not (From Betty Ford Hazeldon Foundation

Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.

We alcoholics need to be very careful when we feel worried because it can lead to relapse. So how can we stop worrying? We can take some clear steps.

First, we need to determine the root of our worry. If necessary, it may help to write down our problem. Second, we should answer these questions: How likely is it that this problem will actually happen? How serious is the problem? How much control do we have over it? Third, we need to make a plan. What could we do about the problem? What would this action solve? Sometimes the best thing we can do is let go. Fourth, we should talk it all over with our sponsor, someone who has faced worry and stays sober.

When we take these steps, we usually learn one of two things; there is a smarter way to handle the problem, or there is nothing we can do about it.


4 thoughts on “Why Not (From Betty Ford Hazeldon Foundation

  1. One of my friends in treatment went around saying, “Not to worry, not to hurry”. He must’ve been creating a mindset.
    I hope I have the mindset of the Serenity Prayer. 🙂

    I’m Harry, grateful alcoholic and devoted twelve stepper.

  2. When all of my self reliance seems insufficient, I eventually resort to the spiritual jiu jitsu move and….”Turn it over to God, and I mean all of it, with no suggestions, hints or limitations”.
    So far it’s worked better the humbler I pray to be, the less self centred I pray to become, the more I ask, “what would you have me do to help your world”.
    Just my experience…
    Grateful for the Gift

  3. Top of the morning family,
    Heard at our Colordaze Conderence: What do you think would happen; if instead of moaning about our human weaknesses, you thanked God for them?

    Self will always protect number 1: ego. Day, night, sleeping or awake, pride is always working to feed its needs. Today, I’m learning that when I’m most afraid – my relationship with Divine Mercy is at a distance.
    Gratitude, reconciliation, trusting, and fellowship is the pathway to peace, joy, and freedom!
    The chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear – primarily fear that we would lose something we already possessed or would fail to get something we demanded. 12×12 Step 7, p.76
    Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. Yoda

    It’s a good day to have a good cracking day…

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