The Blame Game

Quote is from “Voices of Recovery”  February 25th:  “The Blame Game”
“We realize the futility of continuing to blame others for our compulsive behaviors and our unmanageable lives.”
-The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of O.A., p. 46  (edited and adapted for content)
Ouch! This idea hits hard.  For many years I transferred blame for my uncontrolled behavior and unmanageable life to the villain of the day.  Depending on the situation that resulted in my abuse, the villain could be my parents, sister, husband, children, employer, coworkers, friends, or enemies.  In other words, anyone or anything that stood between me and my desires, which could cause in me those excessive behaviors.  Today, I acknowledge that my compulsive behaviors are a choice not an outcome imposed on me by some external force.
I know today that my Higher Power will help me make reasonable choices about all aspects of my life, if I only ask.  Thanks to the presence of a Higher Power in my life, I am no longer at the mercy of multiple dictators.


4 thoughts on “The Blame Game

  1. How long do we have to go to meetings? We go until we “get the program.” We go until the program “gets us.” Then we keep on going and growing.

    This is taken out of Language of the Heart.
    I hated to go to meetings, I thought I was different, I was fearful someone would find out I was going. I was only thinking about me, me, me. Today I have welcomed meetings, so I guess the program gets me, thank God.

  2. I asked,”How long do I have to go to meetings”?
    You have to go until you want to go, they said. 🙂

    Ameri, grateful alcoholic and devoted 12 Stepper.

  3. Top of the morning family,
    Sweet shares this am.

    Heard at my home group, “Promises”:
    If you want to engage in the blame game.
    – Blame your ears
    – Blame your eyes
    – Blame your mouth
    – Blame your heart
    – Blame your soul
    Because you have never upgraded.

    It’s a good day to have a good day.

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