12 Steps For A Sponsor (read it somewhere)

1. I will not let you stay and wallow in limbo.

2.   I will help you grow, to become more productive, by your own definition.

3.   I will help you become more autonomous, more loving of yourself, more free to continue becoming the authority of your own living.

4.   I cannot give you dreams of “fix you up,” simply because I cannot.

5.   I cannot give you growth, or grow for you.  You must grow yourself, by facing reality, grim as it may be at times.

6.   I cannot take away your loneliness or pain.

7.   I cannot sense your world for you, evaluate your goals, or tell you what is best for you in your world; you have your own world.

8.   I cannot convince you of the crucial choice of choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing.

9.   I want to be with you and know you as a rich and growing friend, yet I cannot get close to you when you choose not to grow.

10. When I begin to care for you out of pity, when I begin to lose trust in you, then I am toxic, bad and inhibiting for you and you for me.

11. You must know that my help is conditional.  I will be with you, hang in there with you, as long as I continue to get even the slightest hints that you are trying to grow.

12. If you can accept all of this, then perhaps we can help each other to become what God meant us to be: mature adults, leaving childishness forever to little children.

Advertisements

6 thoughts on “12 Steps For A Sponsor (read it somewhere)

  1. Top of the morning family,
    Top shelf suggestions.
    RE: 8…choosing the scary uncertainty of growing over the safe misery of not growing.
    Sponsorship 3:16 expecting nothing in return.
    Often heard at home group,”we either grow or go”.
    Today, I’m not the same person that I was when I entered the rooms.
    Today, I’m not the same person that I was yesterday.
    Today, I’m learning that it isn’t Divine Mercy that has changed through mental prayer.
    Give us this day, our daily manna.
    my misery; His Mercy
    Which time zone am I living in:
    – Past
    – Present
    – Future
    It’s a good day to have a good day.

  2. Thanks for references ton 12 steps for sponsor . It is so right on for me and I am so grateful that my sponsors, we’re so patient and helped guide me through the steps. God Bless them, I told them I would not be high maintenance and the first thing I did, was cry for about two weeks as we went through steps 1 -4. Lol we are not a glum lot. Another laugh. Kt

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

w

Connecting to %s