I learned in early recovery that “they” were not responsible for my actions, and I quickly grabbed on to the idea that my alcoholism did it all.  There is no doubt that most of my bizarre, tacky, sleazy, etc., behavior was done under the influence, but not all of it.  Today, I try not to take responsibility that is not mine, and to assume the responsibility that is mine alone.  I am responsible for my own feelings and behavior; and I have to quit looking for other people, places, and situations to blame.  The buck stops here!
I am grateful today.