Growing up means behaving in a responsible manner, I know what I should be doing, but I am not always willing to do so. Doing the “right” thing means practicing the Spiritual Principles of Alcoholics Anonymous. The Program gives us the guides to right behavior, they may vary to some degree, but the basics are the same. There is a small wallet card entitled “Emotional Maturity” which was published by the Central Office in Sacramento. It has some excellent suggestions of what a person who has achieved true adulthood looks like. (I have taken the liberty of changing gender identification, and have also edited it for content) I reprint them here as a suggestion of what a “mature person” may look like when they are “all grown-up” :
1. They accept criticism gratefully, being honestly glad for an opportunity to improve.
2. They do not indulge in self-pity. They have begun to feel the laws of compensation operating in all life.
3. They do not expect special consideration from anyone.
4. They control their temper.
5. They meet emergencies with poise.
6, Their feelings are not easily hurt.
7. They accept the responsibility of their own acts without evasion.
8. They have outgrown the “all or nothing” stage.
9. They are not impatient at reasonable delays.
10. They are a good loser who can endure defeat and disappointment without complaining.
11. They do not worry unduly about things they cannot help.
12. They are not given to boasting or “showing off.”
13. They are honestly glad when others enjoy success or good fortune.
14. They have outgrown envy and jealousy.
15. They are open-minded enough to listen to the opinion of others.
16. They are not chronic faultfinders.
17. They have faith in a Power greater than themselves.
18. They feel themselves to be an organic part of humankind, as a whole.
19. They are lifted above “childishness” in thought and behavior.
20. They obey the spiritual essence of the Golden Rule: “Thy shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”