Stinkin Thinkin

Redirecting my thinking by taking some sort of action is key to controlling my anger, for me.  I used to hold on to anger, and I would spend my time justifying my anger with a “how dare they” attitude. When I accept my feelings, and know that I can change those feelings by taking some action, it lightens my burden.  Anger can be all consuming for me, so I focus on what I can do, not on what I can’t.  I cannot control the behavior of others, nor do I have to take their opinion of me as being right, wrong or indifferent.  Understanding where the anger is coming from is paramount to controlling anger.  Getting into action redirects feelings, and allows a release. Instead of ranting and raving, find the time and place for a few minutes of meditation and prayer.  Rather than letting anger be consuming, reach out to another who is in need of some small service, like a ride home.  Getting out of self is a giant step towards understanding and acceptance of emotions and feelings. 

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5 thoughts on “Stinkin Thinkin

  1. Stinking thinking- I can sit somewhere and praise God for all he has done for me. Yesterday after church and just doing all I could to stay in contact with God I felt a buzz, a wonderful natural high wo withdraws. I’m certain it was his love pouring down on me as I just gave him thanks most all day. What’s more to say?

  2. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions: Step 10
    … no exceptions to this rule What about justifiable anger If somebody cheats us arent we entitled to be mad Cant we be properly angry with self- righteous folk For us of A.A. these are dangerous excep- tions. We have found that justified anger ought to be left… us mis- erably ineffective. Nor were we ever skillful in separating justified from unjustified anger. As we saw it our wrath was always justified. Anger that occasional luxury of more balanced people could keep us on an emotional jag indefi- nitely.

    I read this about anger, my sponsor and I are reading through the traditions. She has so much knowledge of the traditions and big book. Grateful for your shares this 24 readers.

  3. Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions: Step 10
    … no exceptions to this rule What about justifiable anger If somebody cheats us arent we entitled to be mad Cant we be properly angry with self- righteous folk For us of A.A. these are dangerous excep- tions. We have found that justified anger ought to be left… us mis- erably ineffective. Nor were we ever skillful in separating justified from unjustified anger. As we saw it our wrath was always justified. Anger that occasional luxury of more balanced people could keep us on an emotional jag indefi- nitely. These

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